We all want to be part of the conversation, especially when we’re at a networking event. Yet sometimes, we can’t tell if we’re “in” the conversation or not. Here’s an easy way to figure it out, watch the torso. The torso is our largest body part, it’s easy to watch, and it conveys the other person’s level of respect and interest towards you. The next time you’re going into a networking event, meeting with a prospective client, or just having drinks notice what the other person is saying to you with their torso. For example:
- Faces you: When the torso faces you, it conveys interest and that the other person wants to “connect” with you. Once they connect, the torso may turn slightly out.
- Tilted away: The torso turns away about 45%. The turn can happen suddenly or slowly over time. It’s a sign you’re losing your audience and they want out of the conversation.
- Turned away: The torso is either turned sideways to you or completely away from you. When you see this, the other person has dismissed you.
- Leaning In: Leaning in is a great sign! It shows interest. We naturally want to get closer to something we’re interested in.
- Leaning Back: Never a good sign. We naturally pull away from things we have an aversion to. EXCEPTION: If the other person is sitting down and leaning back, but another part of them is stretched towards you, like their legs, there’s still interest. In this instance, leaning back just shows they’re getting comfortable.
Being able to quickly recognize when someone is interested or not is a great way to become more effective. No more wasting time on someone who’s not interested or needs to leave a conversation. Instead focus on the people who find you interesting. Put these quick tips to use today and watch what happens!