Most people will experience a traumatic event at some point in their lives, such as returning from a tour of military duty, sudden death of a loved one, a car accident, abuse or neglect, a violent act, or a natural disaster. Many people will not only recover, a large majority recover and decide to create something positive out of tragedy. This phenomenon is known as post traumatic good, and has only recently started to be studied. Below are three well-known examples: Mother’s Against Drunk Driving (M.A.D.D.). This organization was formed in 1980 after the founder’s 13-year old daughter was killed by a drunk driver. Instead of letting grief overwhelm her, she decided to channel her pain and anger into a vehicle for change. One of her biggest accomplishments was to raise awareness of drunk driving and also to create a “parent’s handbook” that addresses talking to teenagers about drinking. A more recent example is AMBER Alerts, which stands for America’s Missing: Broadcasting Emergency Responses, which was named after Amber Hagerman, a 9-year old who was abducted and killed in 1996. AMBER Alerts are sent via wireless devices, radio stations, Internet radio, satellite radio, television stations, and cable TV by the Emergency Alert System and NOAA Weather Radio to announce child abductions. Since December 2015, over 800 children have been rescued due to an AMBER Alert. Finally, the social networking site Meetup, which was founded in New York in 2002, is an example of something good that arose from the ashes Read More

By Alicia Cuello Most people are seeking connection, both personally and professionally.  As a species, not only do we crave connection, we also want to know if we can trust one another.  Unfortunately, most of us are at a loss as to how to accomplish either one.  I have a suggestion: Eye contact Its such a simple gesture, yet its one of the easiest ways to connect while also determining one’s trustworthiness. There’s an old saying, “The eyes are the windows to the soul,”  and I have to agree.  When we look into another person’s eyes we can determine so many things including…. Do we have a connection….and can I trust you? Learning to give eye contact not only creates an atmosphere of connection, it also creates trust.  Unfortunately, we live in a culture that’s not good at giving or receiving eye contact.  And I’d like to help correct that, so here are a few tips on how to give good eye contact: Where to look: Look in the inverted triangle area of the face which is the area that includes the eyes and the tip of the nose.  If you need a visual, envision drawing a straight line from the outer edge of the left eyebrow to the far end of the right eyebrow.  Next, draw two 45% lines from the edges of the straight line to the tip of the nose.  Walla  –  an upside down triangle.   Eye color: After your comfortable looking in the triangle area, work up Read More